strange discoveries about my girlfriends (baby momma’s) past?
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so my gf just had our child in the past week and we’ve been staying at her parents place for extra help for the 1st month. I’m 27 and a med student, pay my own rent and had a happy childhood.
Well in looking in her old closet i found some old notes from her mom to her. I new she went away to boarding school when she was around 15 for running away from home. In the note her mom referenced a confessional note she wrote outlining that while running away she was abusing alcohol, drugs, and having sexual experiences with many boys.
She’s always been a bit needy, and struck me as having a few screws loose but I stuck w/her through the pregnancy and figured i’d give it a serious chance.
Well the note in and of itself isn’t huge, troubled teen…etc. but i’ve caught her in lies in the past and finding this note reinforced her likely lies about who her first partner was. Kinda grosses me out to think I may end up w/the runaway who whored herself out.
Aside from that I’ve caught her in lies about other guys she’s slept with and dated…she won’t admit to anything unless the evidence really is surmountable.
While her past is a bit disturbing I think its more down to the fact that she has lied about so much stuff that bothers me. Should I hold this against her? confront her? etc. I’ve tried bringing the subjects up in round about ways to see her responses and its always lies that I get for answers…i am guilty of being a bit of a snoop but I figure its the rest of my life we’re talking about, so I should be as informed as possible. We’ve dated now 11 mos so as you can see she got prego after 2 mos of dating.
I’ve never been the type of guy that wanted to “save” anyone. I’ve worked hard at whatever I’ve pursued in life and now working hard on being the best surgeon I can be. I’ll be there for my child regardless and for her for that matter but the lies just mount and make me wonder if I should be distancing myself from her in that forever kind of way. I feel like her emotional instability and now all the mounting lies are a red flag to spending my life with this person.
